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  1. harini
    harini February 24, 2013 at 10:01 pm |

    OK, I can’t really string words together to produce a proper comment. So I’ll say: bravo to you for telling us about this huge part of your life. I wish the very best for you, and I know you have great things ahead.

  2. Lizzie
    Lizzie February 24, 2013 at 10:28 pm |

    Nothing is so difficult as an invisible challenge, as I know from experience. Thank you. And the very best of luck to you.

  3. marron
    marron February 24, 2013 at 10:34 pm |

    Brave brave post, Lindsay. It IS good to talk about it, and let people know your story. This disease, illness, sickness should not be hidden away. I hope you continue to find treatment and management options and not have to suffer those depths again.

  4. anna_tennisfan
    anna_tennisfan February 24, 2013 at 10:54 pm |

    Thanks for sharing that, Lindsay.

  5. Ana
    Ana February 25, 2013 at 2:31 am |

    Down with pity; up with understanding. Down with stigma; up with knowledge. Talking about it *does* help–so, thanks.

  6. Aysha
    Aysha February 25, 2013 at 9:41 am |

    Thanks for sharing Lindsay. A really powerful post. I totally agree with you when you said that you’d gotten “strength through the years by reading about the struggles of others” — I’ve no doubt you’ll have provided similar strength to others through sharing your experience. I’ll certainly admit to being one of those. :)

  7. Mania
    Mania February 25, 2013 at 9:46 am |

    Thanks Linz for sharing this. I know how it feels like as I have been through this myself. Not wanting to do anything and just being in your bed for even days. Thanks for sharing it. It does make you feel better to share it and to know that you are not alone out there. Thanks and best of luck. Hope that you always are blessed with good things.

  8. Karen
    Karen February 25, 2013 at 9:50 am |

    Linz, you have said everything I wanted to say and then some. 8 years ago I had a hysterectomy. As part of that process, it threw me into peri-menopause. I am a paralegal in a law firm. The recovery was just terrible. The depression that took hold of me was indescribable. All of a sudden, here I was in the prime of my life with the inability to have any more children. It does not matter that I did not want any more. The fact that I was no longer capable of producing a child left a stigma. Even worse, I felt like half a woman. That coupled with years of self image issues left me depressed.

    I was an A-List paralegal for many years. All of a sudden I would have days of apathy. I was no longer able to follow simple instructions from lawyers. I was unable to meet deadlines and I was thisclose to losing my job. There were days when I would go out on the balcony and just stand there, ready to jump because I felt absolutely useless and clueless. And don’t get me started on the crying.

    After one long conversation with my boss in which it came about that I either sought help or I would lose my job, I sought help. I have been in therapy for a number of years now and I am doing well. Starting a blog has helped. I am no longer on anti-depressants, and I am dealing with my menopause in a much better way. I have a boyfriend, who while not the most ardent of lovers, fulfills me in other ways.

    It takes time and I lift my hat to both Linz and Rebecca for going public with this most personal of mental issues.

    As to the cyberbullying, I think tennis fans (at least the real ones) should take a look at the comments on the betting websites when a match is being played. The type of comments that are made are just a symptom of what is wrong in tennis. It is useless for tennis to try to stamp out betting when they then go ahead and have a betting company sponsor tournaments.

  9. Master Ace
    Master Ace February 25, 2013 at 11:23 am |

    Linz,
    Thanks for writing this article. You are going to win this battle

  10. May
    May February 25, 2013 at 11:52 am |

    That was…amazing. The world of depression is all too often a world of anonymity. I can’t even begin to estimate how much courage writing this article took.

    You know what part of your article hit me hardest? the fact you stopped taking your medicines becasue of: ‘extreme lack of funds’.

    The Glorious United States of America ! Those of us who live in the civilized world (WHERE PEOPLE GET TAKEN CARE OF EVEN IF THEY ARE BROKE) will never understand that. This is barbarism, pure and simple.

  11. Svenja
    Svenja February 25, 2013 at 11:53 am |

    Thanks for sharing, Lindsay. This definitely needs a lot of courage – hats off. Best regards from Switzerland

  12. Jenn
    Jenn February 25, 2013 at 2:34 pm |

    Very brave post, and an important one. Someone very close to me has had the same struggles and it is difficult not only to understand but to know how to respond and help. Thanks for posting this and for all of your blogging, which is always terrific. Hope to see you at a tournament this year.

  13. Lisa
    Lisa February 25, 2013 at 3:33 pm |

    Thank you so much for sharing this. My 17 yo son is a National Merit Commended Student who is having the same experience you did during his senior year this year. Coupling that with his Asperger’s Syndrome diagnosis has created an almost insurmountable mountain of stress. He’s great one day and completely debilitated the next two. He’s in therapy but won’t really talk and the 4-5 meds haven’t made a big impact. I pray he will finally come to terms with his situation and decide to fight rather than continue to shut down because of stories like yours. Otherwise he may not graduate. May you troubles be eased through this sharing!

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  15. thinking2live
    thinking2live February 25, 2013 at 4:27 pm |

    I wrote a post on my blog about the impact of this article and RM’s retirement on me.
    Thank so much for writing about it.

  16. Erik G.
    Erik G. February 25, 2013 at 7:12 pm |

    Thank you for being so candid about your life. Know that sharing your story will help further the dialogue that is still needed about this issue that impacts so many.

  17. Aube
    Aube February 25, 2013 at 9:51 pm |

    Lindsay,

    What a privilege to live the truth,tips hat to both you and Karen,honesty and seeking help will set you through…

    Plus, from the little I gather here through your writings and stuff, I could tell there is no way depression or anythinbg for that matter will have an upper hand on you,not ever…

    There is more to life than perfection, and the way to overcome anything is to first and foremost acknowlegde it,and there is no other way but to first recognize it, then tackle it

    You are and will always be the WINNER!

    I have faith in responsible and brave people and you all are!

  18. toot
    toot February 26, 2013 at 7:06 pm |

    Little late in seeing this but wanted to thank you for writing it. It’s so important that people speak out and talk about depression and what Rebecca did and what you did is going to help a lot of people. Most others can’t understand that “grey”, that ‘darkness’ and ‘helplessness’ that envelops someone with depression – that it’s not something you can just will away.

    Dick Cavett has written some excellent articles in the NYT about his battles with depression. One thing he wrote really stuck with me and I said ‘YES, yes!!! That’s what it feels like.’ He said that if you were sitting in a chair and on a table relatively near to you there was a magic wand that would cure your depression and malaise, you wouldn’t have the energy to get up and go grasp that wand.

    That is what it feels like to me. You can know in your head that getting out of the house and going to see a doctor would probably help you, but if you can’t get out of bed and get dressed, all those things that you know would be good for you to do remain out of your grasp. I give Rebecca so much credit for talking openly about her struggles. The Vancouver Canucks in her hometown have a very visible campaign to talk openly about mental illness after they lost one of their friends and teammates to depression and suicide.

    Slowly but surely the stigma will be lessened by you and Rebecca and the Canucks and many others talking about this disease and how debilitating it can be. I wish you and Rebecca all the best.

  19. SA
    SA February 26, 2013 at 11:37 pm |

    so i’m a little late (ok a lot late) but thank you for writing this lindsay. i don’t know if i could be brave enough to write something like this. i wish we could have this type of discussion more. unfortunately a lot of people still suffer in silence (me being one of them). continued success to you.

  20. Andrea Stevens
    Andrea Stevens February 27, 2013 at 11:44 pm |

    Sorry I was late to this but what a brave post. Thanks for sharing your story. It would be great if Rebecca saw this too!

  21. Pat
    Pat March 1, 2013 at 3:14 pm |

    Thanks for sharing Linz. Finally read it. Such a sad story from you, and I’m thankful that you are managing it, well, quite well.

    Hoping people who have depression, Rebecca too, can find comfort in each other, in their families and in their loved ones.

    And Master Ace is here! Wow.

    And hats off for sharing your story Karen. Hoping you are taking care of your troubles well too friend.

    From Pat. =)

  22. Nola
    Nola March 4, 2013 at 7:24 am |

    Thank you so much for sharing this. A year ago I lost a cousin to depression. My family has always been very close, we are still reeling with the shock.

    To put this in context, it was a tough beginning to the year; we lost my grandmother and her sister in January. And while we were mourning and planning services, we lost my cousin to suicide in February. It was so hard for us to speak about or understand; our mothers had already been dealing with losing their mother and aunt, and then this new blow. A lot of us were angry that she could go and do something so selfish, at such an inopportune moment. Worse; my cousin was a resident doctor, so she ought to have known where to go for help. But the thing about depression which you mentioned, is that it is so disabling.

    A year later the pain lingers – if only we knew what she was going through, maybe if she had spoken to someone, something could have been done. But it is too late now. Like with all illness, information is empowering, and your brave story is important if it could help keep just one person from feeling they are alone with this disease.

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